Apr 22, 2019
Ep 36: You have all the answers within you.
I say this at the end of all of my yoga classes. You have all of the answers within you. But then why do we ask other people for their answers and opinions? Why don’t we ask ourselves for the answer first? Why do we question ourselves? You know what I mean: Girl, what do you think of him? Should I go out with him again? Should I buy this shirt? Does this outfit make me look fat? Should I talk to her about this? Where do you want to go for dinner? I don’t know, where do YOU want to go? You know what you want, so why do you ask other people? You want to go to that new trendy restaurant that just opened and have a big bowl of pasta Bolognese and a good glass of cabernet, so why not say what you want?
The answers are within you if you tune in. They were there all along.
Why do you ask other people for the answers or permission to the answers you already know are inside you?
This is my invitation to you this week: to watch when you ask for other people’s opinions before looking within. I don’t know why we do it. We all have our own reasons. It could be that you truly value that person’s opinion and respect them. That’s great, but why not start with yourself first and begin to value your opinion. It may be that you question yourself and doubt your answers. It may be that you’re afraid to really show up and tell people who you are, what you like and your choices. The work here is to let your mind get quiet and not ping pong between the what ifs and the chatter of the mind, and let yourself become still (go for a walk, meditate, lay down, get out in nature) and see where the answers show up.
The work for you this week is to begin to make friends with your heart and intuition. You may ask other people for the answers because you haven’t developed a trusting and loving relationship with your own intuition yet. There is always that quiet whisper of your heart and soul that guides you to your truth, but your mind shouts so loud that you cannot hear it. So that’s why we ask our friends, “I have a weird feeling he’s cheating on me – what do you think?” I don’t know if I like her, should I go out with her again? I shouldn’t eat that slice of cake, but you think it’s okay right? I’m not happy, do you think I should find another job?”
Each time you feel the need to ask someone else for their opinion, first stop and ask what do you want? What do you want? Where is this gut feeling coming from? If you can tune in to yourself, most of the time you know the answer. We may not want to face and deal with those answers. There is a gut feeling, an inkling, but we ignore it and want a second or third opinion, perhaps hoping we are wrong. You know the truth, but you may not want to face it. This is where courage comes in. Instead of asking others, hoping your gut feeling is wrong, tune in and look at WHY you are avoiding your feelings, the red flags, the gut intuition that are trying to point you to the answers.
This isn’t an exercise just for negative feelings. You may feel really excited about someone or an opportunity, but still ask, should I go for it? When you tune into why are you asking someone permission to feel good or excited about an opportunity, you may find that you’re asking for a second opinion because you are fearful or scared or you don’t believe you are worthy. Maybe your subconscious is used to sabotaging abundance. Maybe you don’t trust that this goodness is really here for you.
I don’t know what the reason is. It will be personal to you. I do know that there is a lot of information you can learn about yourself by turning inward and looking to your own answers than from someone else.
So why not practice this week and see what shows up for you? I would love to hear from you on my blog and thank you for rating, reviewing and sharing this podcast with those who may benefit from it. It means so much to me that together we are building a community of conscious, caring humans.
I hope this process will help you start tuning in to your own intuition and begin a relationship of trust with yourself. It’s okay to talk to your friends about concerns and get advice. I do it all the time. It may be conversational and enjoyable. But you know way better than they do what you should do. You are powerful and strong. Trust yourself to make the right choices. It’s like building a muscle – you gotta use it all the time. Build that faith that you know what to do. All you have to do is tune into your own heart. Stop asking for permission for answers from others when the answers are waiting inside you.